The Lies We Tell Ourselves in CX: Lie #3 – Effortless Experiences Are the Endgame
The hidden power of struggle, pride, and meaningful effort in CX
If you’ve been around CX long enough, you’ve heard the mantra:
“Remove friction at all costs.”
On the surface, it makes sense.
Customers don’t want to struggle, wait, or get trapped in endless service loops.
So CX leaders declare war on friction, investing millions to make things faster, smoother, simpler.
But, effortless experiences aren’t always the endgame. Sometimes, effort is exactly what makes an experience memorable—and worth repeating.
Why the “Frictionless Myth” Took Hold
The idea spread quickly because nobody likes pain points.
We’ve all endured call-center hold music, endless online forms, or apps that ask for the same data three times. Removing that kind of friction is table stakes.
But then CX leaders went further. They didn’t just remove bad friction—they removed all friction.
That’s the trap.
Because ease alone doesn’t build attachment. Ease is forgettable.
The IKEA Effect: Why Effort Creates Value
The IKEA Effect: Why Effort Creates Value
Behavioral science backs this up.
Researchers Dan Ariely, Michael Norton, and Daniel Mochon discovered the IKEA Effect: when people build something themselves, they value it more.
Even if it’s lopsided. Even if it took longer. Even if it’s worse than the preassembled version.
The effort creates ownership. The struggle creates pride.
Think about your favorite meal: is it the one handed to you instantly, or the one you cooked yourself and got just right?
Meaningful effort builds emotional connection.
Intentional Effort Creates Commitment
When you optimize everything for frictionless, you risk stripping away the moments that make customers feel invested.
Learning a new skill takes effort. That’s why mastery feels rewarding.
Earning elite status takes effort. That’s why it feels prestigious.
Customizing a product takes effort. That’s why it feels personal.
Not all effort is bad.
Unnecessary effort frustrates. Intentional effort engages.
Why Over-Optimizing Ease Makes Brands Forgettable
Here’s the paradox:
If you make something too easy, customers stop noticing.
If you invite the right kind of effort, customers become invested.
Take Apple. Setting up a new device requires time—transferring data, configuring settings, personalizing. That effort builds attachment.
Or Peloton. You don’t fall in love with it because it’s effortless. You love it because you sweat, push, and hit milestones. The effort is the experience.
Brands that erase all friction risk becoming invisible utilities. Efficient, but uninspiring.
How to Design for Meaningful Effort
How to Design for Meaningful Effort
The right question isn’t “How do we remove all friction?”
It’s “Which effort creates value, and which destroys it?”
A three-part framework:
Remove Negative Effort
Repeating information
Confusing navigation
Long hold times
Bugs that force do-overs
These kill trust. Eliminate them.
Design Positive Effort
Let customers personalize (playlists, shoes, insurance plans).
Create status tiers that must be earned.
Make onboarding feel like a journey, not a transaction.
Calibrate the Effort
Find the sweet spot: challenging but achievable.
Too much effort feels punishing. Too little feels empty.
Case Study: Duolingo’s “Effortful” Experience
Duolingo could have made language learning as easy as possible. Instead, it leans into effort:
Daily streaks that demand commitment
Levels and badges that require progress
Nudges from the mascot when you slack off
The effort isn’t frustrating—it’s motivating. That’s why millions return every day.
Now compare that with most banking apps. In their obsession with “fast and easy,” every brand feels interchangeable. No effort. No connection. No loyalty.
The Takeaway
Customers don’t remember easy. They remember meaningful.
If your strategy is to strip out every ounce of effort, you’ll deliver experiences that are efficient—but invisible.
The real job of CX isn’t to eliminate effort. It’s to design it.
Your Challenge This Week
Pick one journey in your customer experience and map the effort.
What effort is negative friction and must be removed?
What effort is meaningful and could be amplified?
Ask yourself: Are you making it too easy to forget you?
About This Series
This is the third post in The Lies We Tell Ourselves in CX, a series built to dismantle the comfortable myths holding back your experience strategy. Each one replaces a “truth” that sounds good with one that actually creates loyalty.
More to come in the future.
In the meantime, Check out Lie #1 and Lie #2:
The Lies We Tell Ourselves in CX: Lie #1 – Customers Know What They Want
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The Lies We Tell Ourselves in CX: Lie #2 If Customers Aren’t Complaining, They’re Happy
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